By DEENA BODINE
ADVICE FROM YOUTHFIRST
Parenting is no easy task. And the teen years are notorious for being challenges. While these years are a time of growth and a move towards independence for teens, parents may struggle to find a balance between encouraging independence and helping with problem-solving.
Distinguishing between normal teenage behavior and a serious problem is not always clear. While it is important for teens to grow their problem-solving capabilities, parents also need to be mindful when their child is feeling overwhelmed. Consider how your teen is faring in school as well as his or her friendships for helpful clues. Also, noting whether your teen is open in communication with you about his or her daily life can also bring peace of mind. If you are concerned about any of these areas of your teen’s life, it can be beneficial to follow up with a school social worker or counselor about how to best help your teen.
While it can be difficult to admit that your teen needs more help than you can offer, there are some issues that require professional counseling and intervention. Teens may need to meet with a professional counselor for a variety of behavioral or emotional concerns, mental health issues, stress, relationship difficulties, substance use or traumatic experiences. It is important to recognize some warning signs so that you can seek help for your teen in a timely manner.
Warning signs such as signs of depression, running away, participation in illegal activities, sexually acting out, self-harm or drug use are all clues that immediate intervention is needed. Other warning signs that there may be cause for concern include failing classes, changes in friends or activities, changes in eating habits, inappropriate anger or other significant changes in mood. These behaviors require consideration as signs that your teen may be struggling with more than they can handle.
After determining that your child needs help from a professional, seek more information from a school social worker, counselor or your child’s pediatrician. They can assist in a variety of ways that may include completing an assessment, providing additional support and offering information about referrals and other resources.
While it is not easy to ask for help, it is important to help your child get the assistance they need to be healthy. You may even feel a wide range of emotions, from guilt to worry to regret. These feelings are all normal, but don’t allow these emotions to prevent you from helping your teen get professional counseling. Not only are you securing help for your teen during a difficult time, but you are teaching an important life lesson about asking for help when needed.
Deena Bodine, LCSW, serves as Youth First social worker at Reitz Memorial High School in Evansville.