By FR. KENNETH DOYLE
Question: I am a cradle Catholic. I was divorced in 2019 and am now dating a woman who is not a Catholic.
If I were to marry this woman in a civil ceremony or in her Christian church — without an annulment — is it true that I could not receive Communion in a Catholic church as well as not teach religious education, be a godparent or coordinate our parish’s Mass-server program — all of which I now do?
Also, would my ex-wife have to consent to the annulment? What is her involvement in the process? (I would like it to be minimal.) (Norfolk, Virginia)
Answer: Yes, it is true that if you married this woman without first obtaining an annulment from the Catholic Church you would not be permitted to receive holy Communion. The Catechism of the Catholic Church explains that you would be “in a situation that objectively contravenes God’s law” and “cannot receive eucharistic Communion as long as this situation persists” (No. 1650).
As to service in ministries that the church offers, the standard requirement for such volunteers is that they be in full communion with the church. As one U.S. archdiocese explains it on its website, those who serve as extraordinary ministers of the Eucharist, for example, must be “practicing Catholics, distinguished in their Christian life, faith and morals” and “if married, the marriage must be a valid Catholic marriage.”
I applaud your willingness to offer valuable help in your parish’s ministries, and I am pleased that you are thinking of an annulment, which would allow your work to continue. If you were to apply for an annulment, your ex-wife would be notified that you have done so, and she would be offered the opportunity to fill out a questionnaire including her “take” on the marriage and what contributed to its break-up.
For your annulment to proceed, it would not be necessary that your ex-wife complete that questionnaire or participate at all in the annulment process — only that she be offered the chance to do so. (Often enough, the former spouse is unwilling to be involved, and the process can still proceed.)
Questions may be sent to Father Kenneth Doyle at firstname.lastname@example.org and 30 Columbia Circle Dr., Albany, NY 12203.